My Life In Memes – Domestic and workplace aggression

I looked back on seven years of memories on this day, October 26th, with Facebook. I give pause to the memes I posted, maybe what may have been happening at that time. I was always trying to promote this or that clean water, air, and gentler society, There were some down right funny memes because I once was married to a narcissist, and predatory bully.

I believe the many reasons why I tweet, text, meme, Facebook or write about workplace bullying is I have been a target, a victim, and a resilient kick-butt lady. No one knows the details of a person’s inner most life so I do not stand in judgement of anyone for that reason. I have stayed silent so long about my own domestic violence as my predatory bully was my former husband. HIs behaviors could have landed him in jail if witnessed. Rarely were they witnessed.

He died this year. I felt my grown children’s grief but I do not miss the stalking that would occur. I do not miss the spontaneous screaming at my front door or in public because I was, still am, a generally happy person. I don’t miss “accidental” doors shoved into my head. I don’t miss looking over my shoulder or avoiding certain stores. I don’t grieve his loss. I have a sense of relief.

For the sake of my grandson, I went to some of his soccer games until it became too much for me to handle, the side remarks, the resumption of stalking because I was there. I attempted Christmas get-togethers until my husband said it was too much for him to watch the former get territorial. I let go of many experiences, not because I was uninterested in events but because it was safer for me to minimize my contact with him. The assumptions children or grandchildren make is saying the target/victim is not interested because they don’t show up.

When my adult children make assumptions about my lack of participation, I cringe. They don’t remember soccer games where Dad circled my car, beating on it, calling me names, creating an internal terror. I would not go to certain stores because he made these stores or restaurants, his. There was no telling when he would show up at a grocery 20 miles from his house and only a half mile from mine. Right now, they both want to remember the good things with their relationship with him. Thirty years is a long time to really be free finally.

I hope in writing this out, I lay the memories of abuse aside. and keep being free.

Water is Life: I am back!

Hi! It has been a long time since I have blogged. I have been busy. If you follow me on LinkedIn, Twitter, or Facebook, you know I have been out there talking about climate change, its health effects, environmental issues, and workplace bullying (can’t forget that). So, this is why I decided to blog about what I have been doing. I have been working at the intersection of climate and environmental injustice. Working with many climate and environmental groups, I tend to think we are all at the same party. One group works against fracking and cracking, particularly working against a proposed cracking plant in Belmont County, Ohio. I have been fighting for fracking chemical transparency since 2012. Having a cracking plant by the Ohio River increases the potential contamination of the drinking water of 5 million people. Sierra Club is one group. https://www.sierraclub.org/sierra/climate-energy/dirty-energy Another group I currently invest my time with works to educate on the health and environmental affects of plastics. Knowing the Ohio legislation, local governments are not allowed to ban or tax plastic bags. however, as individuals, we can stop our use of plastic bags, even with COVID 19, by packing our bags ourselves at the grocery store. We can refuse plastic straws at restaurants. I also now use shampoo bars, not shampoo out of a bottle. We use bar soap but I still have so much farther to go to reduce our carbon and chemical footprint. A2Z Plastics is a great group and will have another program beginning September 17, 2020. You can sign up through Halt the Harm.https://halttheharm.net/services/webinar-series/ One group I also invest in works to highlight a new green economic deal for Appalachia from the federal level. Four states of non-profit environmental groups are working together to guide a platform to green industries to replace the damage done by the extractive industries of coal, oil, gas, and fracking. I hope to see most of their platform adopted to help raise Appalachia out of the arsenic and mercury of coal dust. ReImageAppalachia is future thinking. https://reimagineappalachia.org Every group I invest my time with works to better the environment, moving toward green industry, away from coal, oil, gas, and fracking. All of these groups educate the public on climate change, clean air, plastics, and the environmental injustices seen. All of them need to work together and support each other, even if they are not working in the same areas. They are all supporting a future.

Thrive At Life: Working Solutions

18 Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence A Guest Post by Travis Bradberry

 

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Simmering Discontent?

In a perfect world, all of healthcare would consider both the patient and their employees. I believe we all need to keep our moral and ethical compass to open this up to collaboration so whistleblowing and scapegoating did not occur in any organization, healthcare or industry. As the boundaries between physician and nurse becomes more fuzzy within our education, working together will decrease the friction and increase the trust.

Please click on the link to follow along on one nurse’s thoughts on simmering discontent.

 

Source: Simmering Discontent?

Why All Ohio Nurses and the Public Should Get Involved In the Clean Power Plan

I want to speak with you today on why it is so important for the Ohio, and nurses everywhere to promote clean renewable energy and the Clean Power Plan.

Our children’s ability to breath depends on reducing Ohio’s carbon pollution. As a registered nurse and healthcare professional, I believe in primary prevention to reduce asthma and other respiratory illnesses in Ohio. Moreover, primary prevention means making sure the air we breathe is clean.

Personally, my husband is affected by poor air quality with his chronic obstructive lung disease. He can no longer mow the lawn without frequent breaks. I have seen him wheeze, become short of breath, and have to stop what he is doing to catch his breath. I have also seen children struggle to breath because of asthma attacks.

Asthma already affects 257,000 children and 832,000 adults in Ohio. Carbon and other volatile organic compounds, like benzene and methane, trigger asthma attacks and other respiratory illnesses. If the Clean Power Plan is implemented, 2,800 lives will be saved and 760 cumulative hospitalizations will be prevented from 2020 – 2030. If Ohio does not work to reduce carbon pollution, Cleveland will experience 11 more days in the summer that exceed the EPA’s air quality standards with Columbus seeing a 28 percent drop in the number of clean days per summer.

This is not just an Ohio health hazard. According to Cincinnati Children’s Division of Asthma Research, every day in this country, 78,000 children or adults miss school or work daily due to asthma. Approximately 35,000 children or adults have an asthma attack daily. Emergency room visits occur daily for 4,600 children or adults due to asthma. Asthma hospital admission will occur for 1,200 children or adults daily due to asthma, and 10 children or adults die each day from asthma.(1)

The economic cost is close to 56 billion dollars a year.(1)

The economic impact to families and loss of productivity to industry struggling to meet benefits is overwhelming. Everyone’s health will be impacted if Ohio and Senator Portman do not support the Clean Power Plan. So I would like every nurse who feels led to, call Senator Portman’s office and support the Clean Power Plan and EPA’s standards for reducing methane. Future lives depend on it.

By 2030, the Clean Power Plan will prevent 3600 premature deaths, 1700 non-fatal heart attacks, 90,000 asthma attacks in children, and 300,000 missed workdays.(2) 

References and other resources

(1) http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/research/divisions/a/asthma/default/

(2) https://www.whitehouse.gov/climate-change

(3) http://www2.epa.gov/cleanpowerplan

(4) http://www.epa.gov/asthma/pdfs/asthma_fact_sheet_en.pdf

Did the Great Recession fuel a continuing climate of fear in the workplace?

David Yamada and I are like minds. This country needs to put human dignity at the center of our employee relations. One of my business HR mentors stated that employees are “our greatest asset.” When treated with dignity, with actions that consistently display dignity, you earn their trust and increase their productivity. And I have never seen how badly trust has taken a beating with nurses. For the nurses surveyed in my dissertation, one question seemed so pivotal to me: When faced with stressful work situations, I trust the management to look out for me at the place where I work. Of the 80 nurses who answered the survey, 42.5% (n = 34). How administrators, doctors, and nurse leaders act towards their staff matters. Ruling with fear is not the way to building a healthy workplace.

Minding the Workplace

Edvard Munch's "The Scream" (1893)Edvard Munch’s “The Scream” (1893)

According to economists, the Great Recession is officially over, having “ended” sometime during 2009-2010. However, its negative shock waves continue to impact world economies, labor markets, and the experience of work. Among the most costly and underreported effects is how the Great Recession has enabled some employers to stoke an ongoing climate of fear in the workplace.

British psychologist and consultant Sheila M. Keegan, in her thought-provoking new book The Psychology of Fear in Organizations (KoganPage, 2015), suggests that even though the “recession has eased, . . . its psychological effects may well be with us for some years to come.” In fact, she offers the possibility that “just as the Second World War shaped the attitudes of a generation, so too the recent recession will shape the attitudes, behaviours and fears within organizational life for some decades to come.”

This does not bode well…

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Leading A Passionate Life

First off, if you follow my LinkedIn posts, tweets, and Facebook, you know I have three strong passions in my life. First, my passion is to work with individuals and organizations to create and sustain physically and psychologically safe and healthy workplaces. My posts are made to raise awareness, running the gambit of discussing research data, confidential incidents associated with workplace bullying and mobbing, and forwarding other blogs on leadership, culture change, and communication with employees. Relationships live or die through communication that builds trust and authenticity.
My second passion is promoting occupational health nursing. Employers who use lay people to manage workers’ compensation are at a disadvantage if they do not use occupational health nurses in their HR or safety teams. I also believe organizations should use great interdisciplinary teams, including occupational health nurses. Occupational health nurses are instrumental in reducing costs associate with work injury, illness, and coordination of benefits of work and non-work medical issues as well as streamlining the costs associated with OSHA mandated compliance programs Any industry with over 100 employees doing manual labor should have an onsite or contracted occupational health nurse. Any white-collar industry over 300 employees focusing on reducing healthcare costs should have an onsite occupational health nurse for wellness and health promotion. Total Worker Health initiatives need to recognize occupational health nurses as the assets they are to industry.  
My third passion is clean air and water. From the perspective of primary prevention, organizations need healthy people to work and if the community has exposure to poor air and water quality, there are more sick days, cancers, and stillbirths and increased medical costs associated with that poor quality of air and water. As a nurse, primary prevention of illness and injury means a healthy environment, clean air and water. It is this third passion I want to write about today. 

If you are interested in clean air and water, there are several nonprofits you could support or volunteer. They need nurses, the most trusted profession in the US, to push forward clean air and to educate the public. However, they need all persons to push for clean air and water, which will positively affect the climate. Donations also appreciated. 

Several Ohio Nurses Association and American Association of Occupational Health nurses (myself included) attended a free educational program on how to create messages on climate change. The Alliance of Nurses for Health Environments organized and sponsored the program in Columbus. The program took place June 25th and 26th. Katie Huffling at katie@envirn.org was our hostess and it was an excellent program. For nurses who want to volunteer, consider ANHE and their go-to site on evidenced passed articles and positions.  

http://www.enviRN.org 
There are so many nonprofit environmental groups you can become involved. I will be highlighted. Ohio organizations as well. 
Linda Diamond from the American Lung Association in Ohio addressed the group about their focus and the need to recruit more nurses and doctors for Climate Health. Just follow the link below for that information. I did and submitted a statement. 
http://www.lung.org/associations/charters/midland-states/advocacy/doctors-for-climate-health/ 
A representative from the Ohio Environmental Council, Melanie Houston (Director of Water Policy & Environment) came through to discuss issues with the group. They will be working on methane rules and grassroots training for activists and head to DC on September 17th and 18th to train and talk to Congress. Here is their website.  
http://www.ohioenvironmentalcouncil.org/ 
You can also get involved by tweeting or placing FaceBook messages out there for #AsthmaFeelsLike. That campaign started July 15th and continues. See below. 
http://earthjustice.org/advocacy-campaigns/clean-air  
In case you missed it, President Obama released his highly anticipated Clean Power Plan on Monday – the first time the US is regulating carbon emissions from energy production. You can watch the President’s remarks on the day of the release here: https://www.whitehouse.gov/climate-change 
I hope I have given you increased awareness of how important it is to create a healthy environment that promotes healing. Clean air and water is part of that environment. 

Five terrific words from targets of workplace bullying

Wonderful words for those looking for other employment after workplace bullying has seriously undermined confidence.

Minding the Workplace

“I got a new job!”

On occasion, folks who have experienced workplace bullying will drop me a quick line to report the good news. Sometimes they got a new job while still struggling in the old one. Other times they had left or been pushed out of their old job and then found a new gig. More than a few had to look long and hard for a new position.

At times the new job doesn’t pay as well as the previous one, or maybe it isn’t as high up on the organizational chart. It may even mean finding a new line of work or occupation.

Nevertheless, securing new employment after experiencing workplace bullying can be a big step toward personal renewal. Here are a few points to ponder when this opportunity presents itself:

First, it’s absolutely natural to have apprehensions about returning to work after being bullied, mobbed, or abused at a…

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